We are all created uniquely. Even identical twins have their differences. Our finger prints are different. Our smiles are different. I can go on and on about our differences. Though we are created uniquely, we can find that we share similarities with others. That’s the fun part about embracing each other. We find our similarities and we enjoy our circle of friends. We begin to empower one another. We lock arms and we stand together.

What do we do when differences cause tension and conflict??? 

I have learned that there are two things that generally separate women and the church for that matter.

1) An offense.  

An offense can take place in the church when someone has either brought correction or direction to you. We either feel that the person(s) is out of line or have wronged us in some way.

God has placed people over our lives for direction. I can’t urge you enough, that prayer is so important when it comes to dealing with offenses. We must learn to trust that God is always in control, He is working behind the scene even when we don’t feel that He is.

“A person’s wisdom yields patience; it is to one’s glory to overlook an offense.” ‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭19:11‬ ‭NIV

Gods word will not lead us astray. Sometimes, overlooking is not easy; but Gods word says that it is to OUR glory that we do. Why? Because, we will benefit from it! We will be at peace with others, and at peace with God. We must understand that God desires we unite with each other, through the obstacles of life — we shouldn’t allow an offense to cause disconnection in the body of Christ.

“Whoever would foster love covers over an offense, but whoever repeats the matter separates close friends.” ‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭17:9‬ ‭NIV 

Holding onto offenses will not only hurt you, but it hurts the body of Christ (the church). If we are not careful we’ll find ourselves looking for someone to share our issues with. Someone who may have had issues with the same person who offended us. What was supposed to be “venting to a friend” can become gossip. Clicks begin to form, words are exchanged with others about hurts, and/or complaints and in the end; friends become separated. Leaving the church divided, rather than being unified.

If our hearts are not covered in Gods love and grace, we won’t be able to overlook an offense, or forgive someone for hurting us. Those uncharted territories will only hurt the church, rather, than build it up.

“LORD my God, I called to you for help, and you healed me.” Psalm‬ ‭30:2‬ ‭NIV‬‬

True healing will only come from time spent with God. He’s the one we should go to FIRST for any kind of emotional issues in our lives. Our emotions can be misleading when they’re not lead by the Holy Spirit.

2) Competitiveness. 

There is a difference between admiring someone, and trying to be better than them. 

The only person you should want to compete with – is who you were yesterday. Trying to be a better you should be our goal as a follower of Christ.

Competitiveness comes from the inability to be happy for someone. We become intimidated that someone can be better than us; rather, than celebrating who God has created them to be. Because of insecurities, we can hold them back from flourishing into the Woman (or man) God created. This effects the spiritual growth of a person, and ultimately the church. 

“Do everything without grumbling or arguing, so that you may become blameless and pure, “children of God without fault in a warped and crooked generation.” Then you will shine among them like stars in the sky” ‭Philippians‬ ‭2:14-15‬ ‭NIV‬‬

Having the ability to be happy for others will cause you to shine bright. Bringing glory to our Father in heaven and strengthening the church for those, that the Holy Spirit draws in. 

“Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.” Philippians‬ ‭2:3-4‬ ‭NIV‬‬

Let me be real for a moment; I have struggled in both of these areas. I have felt the darkness overshadow me from these issues. It left me unhappy – not only in my church, but in my home and even in my workplace. Not until I sought the Lords strong hand, was I able to overcome this battle. There is TRUE freedom in Christ my friends!

Much of my growing as a person has come from mistakes. I have made countless mistakes, BUT, I have grown in many areas because of them. Im thankful for every woman who didn’t hold back from telling me, what I was doing wrong. I can’t help but think – “where would I be in my walk with God if it wasn’t for those women guiding me and sharing the hard truths with me?!”

As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.”‭‭ Proverbs‬ ‭27:17‬ ‭NIV

To often, we overlook the importance of this scripture; as iron sharpens, there will be sparks shooting out. So as is – in the church or around you need I say, we will experience the sparks with those around us. But if we allow ourselves to grow through them, we will come out stronger. Stronger as the body of Christ. Stronger as a people in this world. 

Just last week we celebrated International Women’s Day. Women were embracing those around them, along with their own strengths and femininity. I did too! But, don’t forget to be a woman who isn’t intimidated to see God use those around you. Be a woman with integrity and humility! Celebrate those around you – not only those in your “circle”. Be of good cheer! God has great plans for you friend! Praying you see your strength and ability to walk into Gods design for your life – free of intimidation and fear.

I am woman – hear me roar! 🦁

Rest in Him friend,

With love,

Rosie Hernandez



Spring is around the corner and I know people are excited for the longer days and brighter everything. There’s something wonderful about the transformation taking place as we begin to see, what was dry and dead – is now beginning to come alive again. Nature is taking it’s course and the blooming season is here.


This got me thinking about how blooming takes place in our lives as well. We are constantly experiencing different seasons in our lives. This thought came to my mind, and I couldn’t help but rejoice; no matter how gray our lives can seem, how dry we may feel or how dead (spiritually) we have become – we can rejoice that HOPE remains. Giving up shouldn’t be an option. There is always something to look forward to, no matter how heavy the clouds seem to hover over you. Our hope must remain in our Savior – Jesus Christ.

Just as the light is necessary for growth and reproduction in nature. Even so our lives NEED the light of this world – which is Jesus! For growth within our hearts and lives we need to be filled up with His Spirit that brings life. So that we can reproduce the joy that is within. Through the light that guides and shines through us, we can now spring forth good fruit.

“If you are filled with light, with no dark corners, then your whole life will be radiant, as though a floodlight were filling you with light.” ‭‭Luke‬ ‭11:36‬ ‭NLT

Just as natures colors radiate around us during Spring – our lives should radiate because of the one who resides in our heart. Through my learning to rest in Gods peaceful presence – I have become content through the dark and brighter days of life. Only because I have learned that nothing in this life is certain, but the love of Christ is always certain. There is true contentment in a life that is surrendered to Jesus Christ. I have found the Person in whom, my resting should be placed in. I’ve become fully aware that as a follower of Christ, my burdens are to be placed upon Him and Him alone. The joy that beams within us, can become attractive to those around us, leaving them wanting that fulfillment in their lives. The question will remain… why is this person so full of life even through the darkest of times?!? It becomes an opportunity to share with someone – that our strength to pursue joy, even in the darkest of times is only found in the resting of Gods presence. Our lives are meant to have purpose! This is our purpose – that we share Gods goodness. When the trials of life come, we can remain standing. And, not just standing, but overcoming with power and fulfillment.

Don’t you want to have a life fulfilled with real purpose?! I know I do.

Every trial we face is for a purpose. God doesn’t overlook your pain, or your dark seasons of life. Just as the rain prepares the soil for growth – our “dark and rainy” seasons will produce growth in our lives that will leave us stronger, and full of life. Seek for this contentment in your life.

“I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do all this through him who gives me strength.” ‭‭Philippians‬ ‭4:12-13‬ ‭NIV‬‬

May your days to come radiate with, love, purpose and Gods goodness. Praying for strength through your seasons.

Rest in Him friend,

With love,

Rosie Hernandez