The word shame makes me cringe. It does so, because I know how detrimental that feeling can be. It leaves a person paralyzed in fear, feeling empty and hopeless. I know all to well, the damage that feeling can cause in a persons life. I’ve been there.
There are 2 different reasons people (women in particular) experience shame. I would like to shed some light to these areas, for the sake of healing.
THE FIRST: RELEASE SHAME
- Things we may have done in the past.
I wanna be clear; nothing we do, or have done, can cause God to look at us with contempt. As long as we are waiting upon the Lords return, we are given the gift of forgiveness. Not only do we receive forgiveness but, we can be transformed in our minds. Then, it goes another step further – to be transformed in our life all together. God takes our mess and He makes something beautiful out of it, if we allow Him to. He will keep us standing strong on Him (our Rock and Salvation).
“He lifted me out of the pit of despair, out of the mud and the mire. He set my feet on solid ground and steadied me as I walked along.” Psalms 40:2 NLT
It is important to be aware, that we have an enemy of our souls. His job is to get us off course and keep us off track. He is a liar and a manipulator. He would love to see us down at our lowest and keep us there.
“The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I came that they may have life, and have it abundantly.” John 10:10 NASB
Jesus comes to give us life and to live an abundant life through Him and His truth. Satan on the other hand whispers lies and condemnation. He wants to steal our future that God has laid out before us. What we need to understand, is the only weapon, the enemy uses against us, are LIES!!! He is the father of lies. [John 8:44] There is NO truth in what he speaks. But, Jesus is the WAY, the TRUTH and the LIFE. [John 14:6]
Friend, we must learn to discern what whispers are coming into our mind. Learning to grasp Gods truth in our hearts can only come with spending time with our Father. It’s where we find truth. It’s where we find healing. It’s where we begin to find our purpose.
God sees our value! He is looking at us towards the future because, He alone knows what we are capable of before we could even imagine the possibilities in our life.
“Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, And before you were born I consecrated you; I have appointed you a prophet to the nations.” Jeremiah 1:5 NASB
Don’t let the shame of your past keep you in a place of darkness. God desires that we come to His glorious light. That we be found in Him.
THE SECOND – IT’S NOT YOUR FAULT
- Unfortunate things have happened in your life that you had no control over. Things, that are to shameful to think about so you keep it bottled inside and it effects many areas of your life and how you see yourself.
First off I wanna say, it’s not your fault! No matter how much the enemy tries to throw lies at you saying that “it’s your fault; you put yourself in that situation, and/or you deserved it because of who you are or were”. I wanna remind you that our Creator sees you as the precious gem you are! You have been hand picked by God and He is wild about you!
I have experienced shame in both areas of my life. I’ve felt shame because of the things I’ve done. I’ve also felt shame, because of things, done to me. I can tell you confidently that healing can come, if we truly seek it!
“Wait and hope for and expect the Lord; be brave and of good courage and let your heart be stout and enduring. Yes, wait for and hope for and expect the Lord.” Psalm 27:14 AMP
“From the ends of the earth, I cry to you for help when my heart is overwhelmed. Lead me to the towering rock of safety,” Psalms 61:2 NLT
“I prayed to the Lord, and he answered me. He freed me from all my fears. Those who look to him for help will be radiant with joy; no shadow of shame will darken their faces. In my desperation I prayed, and the Lord listened; he saved me from all my troubles.” Psalms 34:4-6 NLT
In my early and young Christian days I was told by a great mentor to read Psalms. Many of the Psalms are laments. But, each cry or fear ended with giving God praise and thanking Him for being our refuge and our strong tower.
FIND A SAFE PLACE
Friend, I wanna encourage you to find someone who you trust. A leader, a Pastor, or a minister who will pray with you and for you! It is important that you surround yourself with safe people who genuinely care for your healing.
If you don’t know who you can trust – then, I encourage you to seek counseling. Seek a counselor who lives and practices by the word of God. If you don’t know where to find counselors let me invite you to click here and search for the help you need.
PRAISE THROUGH YOUR HEALING
I have learned in this journey of healing, to give God praise even when it hurts. I spoke healing over my heavy heart, even when I didn’t see it. It took FAITH! Another thing I have learned through this has been forgiveness. Forgivenesses towards myself and for the perpetrator.
If I could be honest, forgiveness has been the most challenging part of my journey, yet, thee most rewarding! I had to learn to give up the right to be angry, to hold onto unforgiveness.
God desires that we offer forgiveness just as He has freely forgiven us and given us the gift of His Son Jesus. This was certainly NOT easy. But each day I had to take a step of faith and trust God through my journey.
Let me encourage you friend, if you are dealing with shame, first of all; find healing in Jesus. Remember, that this will require a step of faith on your part. It’s a day to day process. Second; let forgiveness fill your heart. Forgive yourself and/or the other person(s). You have the right to be set free from condemnation, guilt and fear. And, from feeling responsible for what has happened to you.
Remember, that when Jesus took up the cross – He took up our shame, and every weight that would try to hold us down. Receive your healing today in the name of JESUS!
Praying for your healing! May today be the start to a road of recovery. Hang that shame on the cross. ✝️
Rest in Him friend,