Relationships

Love Out Loud

I think many of us can agree that this world seems to get darker by the day. Tragedies too numerous to count. I can’t turn on my tv without feeling heartbroken for all that’s happening.

Life was intended for us to have relationships. Not only with a spouse but with those in the church. With those in our lives. In all my years of serving in the church, I have seen that far too many people are unwilling to take time to build relationships. They come in, hear an inspirational message, and are off until next week.

Could this be the churches problem?!

Or, could it be that people just don’t value relationships?!

I think it’s a little of both! There are churches that don’t encourage relationships and fellowship with their congregation. And, there are also people who just don’t see the importance of fellowship and connecting with people. We have lost the value of one of one, genuine friendship.

With social media, all the blogs, the podcast, YouTubers and so on, we are replacing those things for real true genuine relationships with REAL people.

 

Fight the distraction

Before I go on, let’s get one thing straight – I’M NOT COMPLAINING about the church! I’m simply challenging you to think about your view on relationships.

Regardless of what your view is on this, one thing holds true since the beginning of time.

WE HAVE AN ENEMY OF OUR SOULS!

In the garden of Eden where Adam and Eve had one on one relationship with God and each other, somewhere along the line, their relationships got distracted. At a vulnerable point in Eves life, the serpent caught her unexpected, then gave her a twisted version of partial truth entangled with lies.

This then caused Eve to believe something, that wasn’t true, and resulted with consequences of broken relationships. Broken relationship with God and each other.

The TRUTH is that we are constantly being drawn to something other than what is true, pure and noble and it’s causing us to live a life that wasn’t intended from the start.

We are living lives apart from relationships.

“Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.”
‭‭Philippians‬ ‭4:8‬ ‭NIV‬‬

 

God intended us to have healthy, loving, person to person relationships.

When was the last time you reached out to a person that you know was hurting?

When was the last time you sat down and had face to face conversations with someone other than your “squad”?

With all that’s happening around a world that seems to get worse by the day, I am compelled to live a life of love that my children can witness and hopefully follow.

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The other day I was in line at the store and a young mom was in front of me. I wanted to hurry back home. I had soo much stuff to do around the house. The young woman forgot something in her car and told the cashier she would be back. I was next in line, as the woman walked back in and was about to walk back to the end of the line. I moved my stuff back and allowed her to take her place back in line. She looked at me with such a grateful smile and said thank you. Almost, as if she was shocked that someone would do something so kind.

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I walked out of the store feeling so good, to be able to do something soo small in my eyes, yet her expression said so much more. As I walked to my car, I heard the Holy Spirit whisper to me “Kindness goes a long way”. Only God knows how that small act of kindness, could make a greater impact in a persons life.

 

 

A Call To Action

I’d like to challenge you – to take a step of faith and do something out of the norm for you! On Sunday when you’re at church, pray, and ask the Holy Spirit to show you someone, whom you can approach and get to know them on a personal level.

If not church, your workplace.

When we meet people who don’t know Jesus, sometimes sharing Jesus isn’t the first part of a relationship. It’s being Jesus to them!

When trust takes place we can then share about Jesus. There are steps to take depending on whom you are sharing to.

“People don’t care how much you know, until they know how much you care.”
~ Theodore Roosevelt

 

 
“We meet people by chance
But we deepen relationship by choice.”
~ Adam Friedrich

Can I encourage you to make the choice today to be one, who will take that first step of being intentional, about becoming relational.

I can assure you that, the person I am today who isn’t afraid to approach you in love, didn’t come naturally. It’s been 10 years in the making. Although, it has definitely gotten easier over time.

As I am continually allowing God to work in and through me, I am being amazed at how God works. I’m constantly blown away by His goodness!

I am soo blessed to be part of a church that has the desire to reach out to our community.

“Where there is no vision [no revelation of God and His word], the people are unrestrained; But happy and blessed is he who keeps the law [of God].”
‭‭PROVERBS‬ ‭29:18‬ ‭AMP‬‬

My church is constantly trying new ways that will inspire us and challenge us to walk in integrity and be filled with the Love of Christ, to reach a dying world that is separated from God. To be a “Jesus” in someone’s world.

Our Pastors are visionaries! And I don’t say that lightly. I’m humbled to have loving, caring Pastors who genuinely wanna see you fulfill your destiny in life. They inspire both my husband and I.

I’d like to ask 2 things of you, in our ever-going mission to reach out…

1. Pray for our church. There is soo much that goes on behind the scenes. Pray, that God would continue to give them the creativity, wisdom and continual love.
2. Give. If you are a member of PCOC (Praise Chapel Orange County), my prayer is that you are giving of your talents and treasures. We have so much going on, and it couldn’t be done without those who obediently give.

Why should I give???

I think this question comes up so often. Too many people overlook how far their money can go and lose the importance of giving. Or, like I mentioned earlier are believing a lie from the enemy that the church takes your money, and I’m return refuse to give.

We have our 180 men’s home, in which is our live-in home for men who are recovering from addiction and trying to get their life back on track. We have our nightlife church for young adults, every Thursday evening. We have our Elevate Nights which meets Friday for our youth. We have our Fullerton Campus, and our Newest Campus in Albuquerque, New Mexico that we support, which are currently in the process of building the church.

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If you’d like to see and read about our church, click here to view some videos and get a glimpse of what’s going on.

We have fundraisers that we do each year to help raise money for cost of these things. Unfortunately, the end result isn’t always meeting the needs.

If you currently don’t have a home church and live in OC, come see what God is doing in the city or Orange. We’d love to have you come be a part of it.

 

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If you don’t live in Southern California, but would like a peep of what’s going on you can get the app on your phone and follow through with us on Sunday, livestream.

All you have to do is text “PCOC APP” to ‘77977’. You’ll receive the link to get the app. Once you’ve downloaded the app, be sure to connect with our Orange Campus.

If God has placed a burden in you to give financially, click here and be a part of what we are doing.

“Since you have been raised to new life with Christ, set your sights on the realities of heaven, where Christ sits in the place of honor at God’s right hand. Think about the things of heaven, not the things of earth.”
‭‭Colossians‬ ‭3:1-2‬ ‭NLT

I’m certain that when we meet God face to face, we will see all the lives that were touched through our prayers, and our giving.

My prayer is that you have been challenged to LOVE out LOUD!!!

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Remember love ‘isn’t’ the warm fuzzy feeling we get in our heart, but it is a choice we make everyday to live and be love, even when we don’t feel a person is worthy of it.

“Love never gives up on people. It never stops trusting, never loses hope, and never quits.”
‭‭1 Corinthians‬ ‭13:7‬ ‭ERV‬‬

Take a look at this video of our latest baptism. Seeing people make a change in their life, never gets old.

 

 

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Praying for you friend! May Gods love cover over you and compel you to be a person that you never thought you could be. May you step outside of comfort zones and release Gods power and anointing in all you do for His Kingdom.

 

Rest in Him friend,

With Love,

Rosie Hernandez

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Pursuit To Happiness

What truly makes a person happy?

I think too often we come into the church with these expectations of perfection. When people are tired of the world and all it’s drama, they want something different!

The church is filled with people. Many people. People with issues. Some with BIG issues. Some are working on their issues and some haven’t realized they have issues. My point is, we can’t control other people’s actions. I’ve learned in my short 9 years serving God that we can often get offended, feel rejected, even mistreated, feel under appreciated and feel out of place in the church. But, on the other end, we can also be embraced, receive plenty of love, be appreciated and feel like you belong. Exactly as God intended the church to be!

I naively stepped into the church with expectations that I wouldn’t ever feel ugly emotions that I felt when I was in the world, (i.e jealousy, hatred, rejection, un-forgiveness etc.). To my surprise, I found that and much more. I couldn’t believe that there were girls (and guys) who would intentionally do things to cause trouble for others or even worse would do things they had just preached over the pulpit that we “shouldn’t” do. It blew my mind!

I found myself in a place, where I began to have issues with certain people. I was filled with frustration and anger. Church no longer felt like church to me, you know; a safe place. It felt like I was back in high school and competing to be one at the top. Constantly feeling the need to prove myself.

Too often we come naively thinking that church makes our life easier and when things go wrong, we often fight God and somehow blame Him for the actions of others. Even worse, because of unresolved issues, we can become resentful towards the church, God, Pastors and Christians all together. We hold issues against people and before you know it – we are in bondage and we don’t even know it. And all the while satan is behind most of it; spewing lies and feeding more lies to get you to believe that you are right and somehow everyone else is wrong. If we’re not careful  slandering takes place, groups form and we’ve become separated from everyone else.

I’m thankful to God that when my husband and I were friends, he was a man of integrity. He practiced what he preached and he even taught me to do the same. He taught me to honor leadership and live according to what God’s word tells us. Every misunderstanding I had, he taught me to take it to the feet of Jesus. My safe circle consisted of 2 women, who would tell me the TRUTH, even if it wasn’t what I wanted to hear, and they would pray with and for me.

 

Own Your Mistakes

If you have whole-heartedly accepted Jesus into your heart, then you believe that we are sinners in need of a Savior. If you believe you are a sinner, then you acknowledge we need help. We need the help of the Holy Spirit to guide us and give us His truth. Because we are constantly in battle with our flesh, we war with decisions of what is right and wrong. Not all things that seem good to us, are good. The fruit that Eve held in her hand “seemed good” [Genesis 3:6-13]. It’s imperative that we learn to discern the truthful words the Holy Spirit is speaking to us. When we are young in our faith we will make mistakes (I’ve made plenty). We learn through our mistakes by acknowledging our part. We must own up to things that brought about hurtful issues in church.

When we own our part of any issues, it shows maturity. Even if you believe a person is wholly responsible for the issues and you feel just for your actions – but you can admit to adding to it, there is such a supernatural thing that takes place in your heart. It’s unexplainable! Not all people will want to own up to their actions, or be the first to say “I was wrong”, but when you are dedicated to hearing from the Holy Spirt, you are compelled to do what is right! If someone else isn’t doing it, I can assure you that Jesus is interceding for YOU to step up to the plate and be the first. Why??? Because, when we can do this, we are imitating what we believe Jesus has done for us on that cross.

 

Practice What You Preach

There was an incident I experienced about a year ago. My oldest daughter sat in the fellowship area at the church. There were 2 women who had chose to leave the church earlier that year and came back for a fund raiser the church had that day. Not knowing my daughter was sitting there, one woman held my youngest son. My son has this bump on his right side, just under his arm, that we have been praying and believing that it would be removed without any kind of surgery. As this woman was holding my son, she felt the bump and told the other woman to feel it. (This other girl was someone I had issues with in the past. She left the church about a year before that, and decided that day that she would return). As the woman, told her to feel the bump on my son, she said “eww no! I’m taking my sons away from him.” Grabbed her 2 boys and ran away. As my daughter heard all this, she was dismayed, and ran to tell me what she had heard.

At that moment, as she told me everything, I felt sick to my stomach and rage in my heart. I was conflicted with confronting this girl about what she said, or bringing this issue to the pastors. I was soo upset and hurt at the same time. I told my husband what happened and we both agreed we would take this issue straight to throne of God.

We both decided that we would let it go and give it over to God. Soo much hurt and anger as I prayed for Gods divine touch. I wanted soo badly to take things into my own hands. I felt I had every right to be upset! This wasn’t a young girl who said this, it was a grown woman with children. As each day passed I prayed and prayed for God to take those ugly feelings of hate in my heart. I actually felt hate in my heart. I felt justified to feel the way I did. She said this about my son! A child.

There, I was at church on Wednesday and Sunday with a “faith” smile. I even went as far as hugging her. I believe many would ask why; Why did I go out of my way to hug a girl I knew I didn’t like. The reason I did that, was because I knew, if I kept my distance from her, I would fester more negative feelings toward her.

The week before this incident, I was asked to speak to the woman at our Women’s Service. I spoke on the fierce love of God. I reminded the women of Gods fierce love for us, and how He sent His Son to die for us. If I believed that Gods love for us is fierce, then I have to believe that Gods love for this woman is just as fierce for her as it is for me. And I had to believe that He would make good of this situation. If not by her choice, then at least by my choice.

 

UN-FORGIVENESS LEADS TO THE ABSENCE OF JOY

If I am honest with myself, I can relate to Jonah. After preaching salvation to the wicked, many of those people turned their hearts to God. And after all that, rather than celebrating God’s mercy, Jonah was upset. He went away alone and sat under a plant sulking in his own bitterness. Jonah had his own idea of Gods judgement [Jonah 4:1-6].

We can be that way as well. We can create these ideas in our hearts and minds of how God should judge because of what others have done to us. You know who ends up suffering from that kind of thinking – we do. If we don’t allow ourselves to be free from bitterness, that bitterness prevents us from experiencing the fullness of a joy-filled life, that Jesus offers us.

“May you experience the love of Christ, though it is too great to understand fully. Then you will be made complete with all the fullness of life and power that comes from God.”
‭‭Ephesians‬ ‭3:19‬ ‭NLT

MERCY = undeserved kindness.

I truly know how much God has forgiven me for. I know how much I NEED The Lords mercy. How could I expect God to forgive me, and not do the same to someone else in return.

Friend, we are called to be Christ-like. When we truly believe with our whole heart that Jesus gave His life for OUR sins, we really understand what we’ve been forgiven from. In my desire to be Christ-like, I have experienced something unexplainable take over my heart. In my stony, stubborn heart, God replaced it with a tender responsive heart as He put His Spirit inside me [Ezekiel 36:26,27].

 

“You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies; You have anointed my head with oil; My cup overflows. Surely goodness and lovingkindness will follow me all the days of my life, And I will dwell in the house of the LORD forever.” ‭Psalms 23:5-6 NASB‬

The Lord prepares the table before our enemies (i.e anger, bitterness, unforgiveness, judgment, jealousies).
My cup overflows with love, forgiveness, mercy and grace.

 

Choose Joy

You have a choice. Have you ever sat back, and thought about that powerful statement. In this ever evolving world, that our God has created, we have been given a choice. God gives us free will. He gives us the option to choose yes or no. Yes I believe. No I won’t. Yes, I’ll forgive. I’ll choose to hold onto reason, not to forgive.

Joy is the difference-maker in the life of a believer.

When you hold both tragedy and joy in one hand it invites restoration.

There were so many negative issues I experienced through one person. But you know what! I choose to take up my cross daily. I lay those issues at the feet of Jesus daily. I trust that Jesus will make ALL things new. And that means He’ll give me a new heart daily to receive His mercy and return it back to those who have wronged me. And in that, I’m able to receive His abundant joy. And it overflows in my life.

Let me encourage you that nothing goes unnoticed to our God. If you desire true healing no matter the cost, I can assure you that God will grant you what you have asked. Sometimes to get to the healing, we have to overcome painful obstacles. God wants us to trust Him, even when things seem soo wrong. In our desire to fulfill Gods plan in our lives, we stayed in a painful place for a long time, until the Lord made the way to bring us to a safe place. God intended the churches to be a safe place for people to be restored. Where people can thrive in the gifts that God has placed inside of them. We are now in that place! Hallelujah!

If you want to be happy, true happiness comes with being content in your relationship with God, His Son and the ever so present help of His Holy Spirit, who work together as ONE, on our behalf to be one with Him.

This year is coming to an end. Don’t allow the enemy or yourself, to rob you from true peace, true healing and TRUE HAPPINESS. Choose joy. Choose forgiveness. Choose love, even when we strongly believe someone is unworthy of it. Allow the Holy Spirit to make you NEW! Forgive, because God has forgiven you!

 

Rest in Him friend,

With Love

Rosie Hernandez