What makes a woman strong?

I have found that one word will ultimately make you stronger than you think. It’s simple, yet many of us struggle to apply it. I mean really apply it… ready for it???


I know, it’s soo cliché. The Christian girl, telling you, all you need is love.

But, honestly learning to love fearlessly and genuinely, has been my biggest strength.

Has it been easy? No way! I’ve had reason to hold grudges.

Betrayal, abandoned, rejected, persecuted, and even violated. The healing process of such things haven’t been easy and there was a lot of mind battles that came with the healing process.

Now, I don’t want to take away from the healing (that’s another blog for another day), but without learning to do what was hard on my own strength, which is to love despite my valid reason to not – I couldn’t have experienced true freedom.

Living love is an ongoing process. You don’t all of a sudden love someone who hurt you by deciding one day that you’ll love, and that’s it… It is a daily choice!

And let me be clear… you CAN NOT do it on your own strength. It has to be a complete dependency on the Lord to guide you into loving others. Especially when it’s hardest to love.

“Yes, I am the vine; you are the branches. Those who remain in me, and I in them, will produce much fruit. For apart from me you can do nothing.”
‭‭John‬ ‭15:5‬ ‭NLT‬‬

I’ve seen people refuse it, and the outcome is always the same. Bitterness a lot of hurt and continual drama in their life. All because of refusing to forgive and move forward.

Take a look at the marches you see happening…

First off, you can’t be for women and then refuse them because of their political views. You are either for ALL women or you’re NOT. These marches are nothing but a hypocritical, selfish reason to lure people in to walk for someones own agenda. I saw more division and hatred coming out of these marches than women who are strong and empowering each other.

“Hatred causes arguments, but love overlooks all wrongs.”
‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭10:12‬ ‭ERV‬‬

Don’t get me wrong, I believe there were some women who had good intentions.

God NEVER intended division among His people. He didn’t from the beginning and He doesn’t now.

“Love never gives up on people. It never stops trusting, never loses hope, and never quits.”
‭‭1 Corinthians‬ ‭13:7‬ ‭ERV‬‬


Only one from the beginning of time, brought upon destruction and an evil that could manipulate, deceive, and separate people from their maker.

“God knows that if you eat the fruit from that tree you will learn about good and evil, and then you will be like God!””
‭‭Genesis‬ ‭3:5‬ ‭ERV‬‬

That my friend, is satan!

Have you ever wondered why the enemy chose to deceive Eve over Adam?

Because of who God created women to be!!!

Satan knew that if he could assault woman first, ultimately he would assault mankind. And that is exactly what happened!


He knew that this assault would cause, blame (that’s what Adam did as God asked about eating the forbidden fruit. And it’s what we do, when we complain that Eve ate the fruit), shame, condemnation, pride and much more.

Satan attacked the very people whom God created in His image. He knew that by attacking man and bringing division against each other, he was attacking God.

Why? Because man is Gods greatest creation.


As parent of a teenager, when my daughter doesn’t listen to my instructions that are GOOD for her (which she often doesn’t think it is), It bothers, hurts and upsets me.

I can’t help but think about, how hurt God was when He instructed Adam and Eve NOT to eat of the fruit, and they did it anyway.

Since then, we have experienced the brokenness of relationships with each other and most importantly with GOD!

That was an attack against ALL mankind. No specific gender. All. Anyone created in the image of God.

Here was Adam and Eve, physically walking with God, and all because of disobedience, the moment they chose to believe a liar over their Creator, their relationship was shattered. Broken. A continual target for the enemy. Seeking to divide and devour mankind.

I am praying that we will truly KNOW who God has created us to be. Strong women who will empower one another. Also, stand strong beside men whom God has also created for us to work alongside and not against.

To explain further on how Eves attack was ultimately against mankind, I’m honored to introduce Carrie Friedrich as my co – writer to share her insight on who Eve was…

Carrie Friedrich:

When I was a little girl I used to run around my house in my Wonder Woman underwear. Spinning around the house pretending to be my favorite super hero.
Fasting forward 35 years… now I’m a wife, mom of three, and pastors wife… many times I still feel like I’m spinning around in circles.
But Recently as the flu bug rampaged through our home and finally hit Mom… (me) I found myself groggily going through my day waking up my daughter for school, making her lunch, preparing to speak for our church women’s night and grocery shopping…. all the things all of us moms do every single week… sick or not.
Certainly didn’t feel like Wonder Woman that day.

Made me think about Eve.

Gen. 2:18 And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.

Do you know that the Hebrew word that was used in reference to Eve as a help meet was “Ezer”? Ezer literally means strong… it also means to carry.
Basically God himself called Eve, Wonder Woman. He calls you Wonder Woman. I am Wonder Woman. And it’s not by anything We’ve done. It’s all because He made us this way.

He made us with the strength to carry heavy things all while being tender enough to carry delicate things.

March is national women’s history month. I’m sure we will hear the names of many famous strong women who changed their environment for the good…

But we are all called for a purpose. God didn’t just give us strength to carry our own circle but to expand our reach to others.

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That is why I think of my favorite hero Wonder Woman… in the comic books she was always helping others. Carrying others to safety, fighting to save others…
All the things we can do. We don’t need super powers, we have His Holy Spirit living within us. We are capable of so much more than we think.
If we could just realize that when God called us “helpmeet” it was basically saying here she is…. strong enough to carry big things. How much more effective would we be as women if we embraced this?

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So let’s hike up our big girl super hero panties and spin into all that God has for us!


We don’t need to prove to others that we are strong by marching around with confused ideas of strength. We don’t need to trample over others to prove how strong we are. There is certainly no need to compete with another to prove our strength.

It’s already inside us. We just need to learn to trust God and learn to walk in Love as He has called us to do.

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‬‬“and walk in love, just as Christ also loved you and gave Himself up for us, an offering and a sacrifice to God as a fragrant aroma.”
‭‭Ephesians‬ ‭5:2‬ ‭NASB


I’ve included this great video on Ravi Zacharias’ answer to the question “Does God favor a gender?” Enjoy!


Happy International Women’s Day!


Rest in Him friends,

With love,

Rosie and Carrie




We are all created uniquely. Even identical twins have their differences. Our finger prints are different. Our smiles are different. I can go on and on about our differences. Though we are created uniquely, we can find that we share similarities with others. That’s the fun part about embracing each other. We find our similarities and we enjoy our circle of friends. We begin to empower one another. We lock arms and we stand together.

What do we do when differences cause tension and conflict??? 

I have learned that there are two things that generally separate women and the church for that matter.

1) An offense.  

An offense can take place in the church when someone has either brought correction or direction to you. We either feel that the person(s) is out of line or have wronged us in some way.

God has placed people over our lives for direction. I can’t urge you enough, that prayer is so important when it comes to dealing with offenses. We must learn to trust that God is always in control, He is working behind the scene even when we don’t feel that He is.

“A person’s wisdom yields patience; it is to one’s glory to overlook an offense.” ‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭19:11‬ ‭NIV

Gods word will not lead us astray. Sometimes, overlooking is not easy; but Gods word says that it is to OUR glory that we do. Why? Because, we will benefit from it! We will be at peace with others, and at peace with God. We must understand that God desires we unite with each other, through the obstacles of life — we shouldn’t allow an offense to cause disconnection in the body of Christ.

“Whoever would foster love covers over an offense, but whoever repeats the matter separates close friends.” ‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭17:9‬ ‭NIV 

Holding onto offenses will not only hurt you, but it hurts the body of Christ (the church). If we are not careful we’ll find ourselves looking for someone to share our issues with. Someone who may have had issues with the same person who offended us. What was supposed to be “venting to a friend” can become gossip. Clicks begin to form, words are exchanged with others about hurts, and/or complaints and in the end; friends become separated. Leaving the church divided, rather than being unified.

If our hearts are not covered in Gods love and grace, we won’t be able to overlook an offense, or forgive someone for hurting us. Those uncharted territories will only hurt the church, rather, than build it up.

“LORD my God, I called to you for help, and you healed me.” Psalm‬ ‭30:2‬ ‭NIV‬‬

True healing will only come from time spent with God. He’s the one we should go to FIRST for any kind of emotional issues in our lives. Our emotions can be misleading when they’re not lead by the Holy Spirit.

2) Competitiveness. 

There is a difference between admiring someone, and trying to be better than them. 

The only person you should want to compete with – is who you were yesterday. Trying to be a better you should be our goal as a follower of Christ.

Competitiveness comes from the inability to be happy for someone. We become intimidated that someone can be better than us; rather, than celebrating who God has created them to be. Because of insecurities, we can hold them back from flourishing into the Woman (or man) God created. This effects the spiritual growth of a person, and ultimately the church. 

“Do everything without grumbling or arguing, so that you may become blameless and pure, “children of God without fault in a warped and crooked generation.” Then you will shine among them like stars in the sky” ‭Philippians‬ ‭2:14-15‬ ‭NIV‬‬

Having the ability to be happy for others will cause you to shine bright. Bringing glory to our Father in heaven and strengthening the church for those, that the Holy Spirit draws in. 

“Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.” Philippians‬ ‭2:3-4‬ ‭NIV‬‬

Let me be real for a moment; I have struggled in both of these areas. I have felt the darkness overshadow me from these issues. It left me unhappy – not only in my church, but in my home and even in my workplace. Not until I sought the Lords strong hand, was I able to overcome this battle. There is TRUE freedom in Christ my friends!

Much of my growing as a person has come from mistakes. I have made countless mistakes, BUT, I have grown in many areas because of them. Im thankful for every woman who didn’t hold back from telling me, what I was doing wrong. I can’t help but think – “where would I be in my walk with God if it wasn’t for those women guiding me and sharing the hard truths with me?!”

As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.”‭‭ Proverbs‬ ‭27:17‬ ‭NIV

To often, we overlook the importance of this scripture; as iron sharpens, there will be sparks shooting out. So as is – in the church or around you need I say, we will experience the sparks with those around us. But if we allow ourselves to grow through them, we will come out stronger. Stronger as the body of Christ. Stronger as a people in this world. 

Just last week we celebrated International Women’s Day. Women were embracing those around them, along with their own strengths and femininity. I did too! But, don’t forget to be a woman who isn’t intimidated to see God use those around you. Be a woman with integrity and humility! Celebrate those around you – not only those in your “circle”. Be of good cheer! God has great plans for you friend! Praying you see your strength and ability to walk into Gods design for your life – free of intimidation and fear.

I am woman – hear me roar! 🦁

Rest in Him friend,

With love,

Rosie Hernandez