Relationships

Dear Mama,

Almost 40 years old and here I am, married with 4 children. Mothers Day is quickly approaching.

I was thinking about my teenage years and how thankful I am, that I have a mom who was a mother of prayer. Words my mom spoke to me as a young girl began to flood my mind. There were times I kept my mom up late as she was praying that I would make it home safe and alive. I wasn’t a very good student. In fact, I was really bad. Now that I’m older, I can still hear the words of my mom telling me I’m gonna regret it. “Do better in school. Stay the course. Don’t do what I did,  I regret it!” Oh, how she was right! 

As a teenager, identity crisis is something you face. Trying to fit in. We find ourselves in a circle of bad influences. We battle with the struggle of gaining approval. Faced with making right and wrong choices and how we appear to our peers. 

I always felt, as if my mom didn’t really understand me. She was mom. She wasn’t a teenager. She didn’t know what it was like to be my age. Well, that’s how I felt! 

 

My daughter is 13 years old and isn’t half as wild as I was at this age. All thanks to Jesus! Even with Jesus a huge part of her life, I see the struggle of the teenage girl. I recognize the looks my daughter gives me, as I’m certain she’s thinking I have no clue as to what it feels like to be her age. 

It’s like I’m looking at myself as a young girl. Only this time, I’m on the other end. 

So what do I do? I get ready for battle! I’ll do what I know my mom did — I’ll go into battle in my ‘War Room’. I’ll stand strong and tall on my knees. My children’s future is at stake here! And in this war, I’m NOT alone. 

We spend a lot of time messing up and even more time regretting what we’ve done instead of spending time allowing God to restore what has been done and making all things NEW.

I need to let my mom know how thankful I am, for ALL she has done. Her words still linger in my head as I’m now in her position. Facing the challenges of motherhood. So I decided to write a tribute to my mama. My Lady. My queen… B213F610-5C46-4524-A18D-7E1493A4A68D

Dear Mama, 

I took a long hard look at my family, and thought about how grateful I am to have YOU as my mom. With kids in all stages of life, I sometimes feel like I’m stretched in all areas. I’m trying to figure out how to deal with each one. Do you know what I mean?! Of course you do! You’ve done it 9 times, and even now you’re a HUGE part of growth in your grandchildren’s lives. How do you do it? I’m still trying to wrap my head around it… how do you raise 9 kids and then continue to help raise more.

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I mean, who has the time, strength and desire to do that?! But here you are, so willing to do it with joy and pleasure. 

Mom, I haven’t been the best daughter to you! I’ve taken you for granted. I’ve dishonored you. I’ve misjudged you. I haven’t always shown you the love you deserve. 

I know that somethings I did as a kid have scarred you. Yet, you have never held things against me. You have ALWAYS been there for me! You have the most forgiving heart I know. 

Though I have caused you hurt and pain, here we are, with the best relationship we’ve EVER had! All thanks to Jesus! 

You often told us as kids how much you’ve missed your mom. With the pain you experienced through your loss, all you’ve ever wanted was for us to not have to feel the same. So you’ve tried and tried your best. Thank you for that mom! Thank you for your kind heart. You have been the love and patience in our family. You have taught us to be at peace with one another. Staying upset with each other has never been an option for you. 

As I continually build my relationship with Christ and I learn more about Him and His love for us, I’m reminded of how you carry the gift of peace. Regardless of the pain others have caused you, you have loved unconditionally. 

I’m now a wife and mother and sometimes I feel like I just need my mom. I’ll never forget my wedding day as we danced and you told me to love my husband and be a good mom. You have encouraged me to let go of my stubbornness. 

Thank you for all you’ve imparted in me through your example and words. Thank you for your help! Thank you for your patience! Thank you for being YOU!!! I can’t change our  past, but I can work on our future. I will spend my days loving you and cherishing you! Processed with VSCO with ke1 preset I love you to the moon and back! I’ll spend my days praying over your life as you’ve done for mine. Thankful for our God who restores and heals. Thankful for you mom! I cherish you! Happy Mothers Day! 

Love Rosalie

 

 

 

Rest in Him,

With Love,

Rosie Hernandez

Identity

Undaunted

What makes a woman strong?

I have found that one word will ultimately make you stronger than you think. It’s simple, yet many of us struggle to apply it. I mean really apply it… ready for it???

LOVE

I know, it’s soo cliché. The Christian girl, telling you, all you need is love.

But, honestly learning to love fearlessly and genuinely, has been my biggest strength.

Has it been easy? No way! I’ve had reason to hold grudges.

Betrayal, abandoned, rejected, persecuted, and even violated. The healing process of such things haven’t been easy and there was a lot of mind battles that came with the healing process.

Now, I don’t want to take away from the healing (that’s another blog for another day), but without learning to do what was hard on my own strength, which is to love despite my valid reason to not – I couldn’t have experienced true freedom.

Living love is an ongoing process. You don’t all of a sudden love someone who hurt you by deciding one day that you’ll love, and that’s it… It is a daily choice!

And let me be clear… you CAN NOT do it on your own strength. It has to be a complete dependency on the Lord to guide you into loving others. Especially when it’s hardest to love.

“Yes, I am the vine; you are the branches. Those who remain in me, and I in them, will produce much fruit. For apart from me you can do nothing.”
‭‭John‬ ‭15:5‬ ‭NLT‬‬

I’ve seen people refuse it, and the outcome is always the same. Bitterness a lot of hurt and continual drama in their life. All because of refusing to forgive and move forward.

Take a look at the marches you see happening…

First off, you can’t be for women and then refuse them because of their political views. You are either for ALL women or you’re NOT. These marches are nothing but a hypocritical, selfish reason to lure people in to walk for someones own agenda. I saw more division and hatred coming out of these marches than women who are strong and empowering each other.

“Hatred causes arguments, but love overlooks all wrongs.”
‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭10:12‬ ‭ERV‬‬

Don’t get me wrong, I believe there were some women who had good intentions.

God NEVER intended division among His people. He didn’t from the beginning and He doesn’t now.

“Love never gives up on people. It never stops trusting, never loses hope, and never quits.”
‭‭1 Corinthians‬ ‭13:7‬ ‭ERV‬‬

 

Only one from the beginning of time, brought upon destruction and an evil that could manipulate, deceive, and separate people from their maker.

“God knows that if you eat the fruit from that tree you will learn about good and evil, and then you will be like God!””
‭‭Genesis‬ ‭3:5‬ ‭ERV‬‬

That my friend, is satan!

Have you ever wondered why the enemy chose to deceive Eve over Adam?

Because of who God created women to be!!!

Satan knew that if he could assault woman first, ultimately he would assault mankind. And that is exactly what happened!

 

He knew that this assault would cause, blame (that’s what Adam did as God asked about eating the forbidden fruit. And it’s what we do, when we complain that Eve ate the fruit), shame, condemnation, pride and much more.

Satan attacked the very people whom God created in His image. He knew that by attacking man and bringing division against each other, he was attacking God.

Why? Because man is Gods greatest creation.

 

As parent of a teenager, when my daughter doesn’t listen to my instructions that are GOOD for her (which she often doesn’t think it is), It bothers, hurts and upsets me.

I can’t help but think about, how hurt God was when He instructed Adam and Eve NOT to eat of the fruit, and they did it anyway.

Since then, we have experienced the brokenness of relationships with each other and most importantly with GOD!

That was an attack against ALL mankind. No specific gender. All. Anyone created in the image of God.

Here was Adam and Eve, physically walking with God, and all because of disobedience, the moment they chose to believe a liar over their Creator, their relationship was shattered. Broken. A continual target for the enemy. Seeking to divide and devour mankind.

I am praying that we will truly KNOW who God has created us to be. Strong women who will empower one another. Also, stand strong beside men whom God has also created for us to work alongside and not against.

To explain further on how Eves attack was ultimately against mankind, I’m honored to introduce Carrie Friedrich as my co – writer to share her insight on who Eve was…

Carrie Friedrich:

When I was a little girl I used to run around my house in my Wonder Woman underwear. Spinning around the house pretending to be my favorite super hero.
Fasting forward 35 years… now I’m a wife, mom of three, and pastors wife… many times I still feel like I’m spinning around in circles.
But Recently as the flu bug rampaged through our home and finally hit Mom… (me) I found myself groggily going through my day waking up my daughter for school, making her lunch, preparing to speak for our church women’s night and grocery shopping…. all the things all of us moms do every single week… sick or not.
Certainly didn’t feel like Wonder Woman that day.

Made me think about Eve.

Gen. 2:18 And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.

Do you know that the Hebrew word that was used in reference to Eve as a help meet was “Ezer”? Ezer literally means strong… it also means to carry.
Basically God himself called Eve, Wonder Woman. He calls you Wonder Woman. I am Wonder Woman. And it’s not by anything We’ve done. It’s all because He made us this way.

He made us with the strength to carry heavy things all while being tender enough to carry delicate things.

March is national women’s history month. I’m sure we will hear the names of many famous strong women who changed their environment for the good…

But we are all called for a purpose. God didn’t just give us strength to carry our own circle but to expand our reach to others.

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That is why I think of my favorite hero Wonder Woman… in the comic books she was always helping others. Carrying others to safety, fighting to save others…
All the things we can do. We don’t need super powers, we have His Holy Spirit living within us. We are capable of so much more than we think.
If we could just realize that when God called us “helpmeet” it was basically saying here she is…. strong enough to carry big things. How much more effective would we be as women if we embraced this?

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So let’s hike up our big girl super hero panties and spin into all that God has for us!

 

We don’t need to prove to others that we are strong by marching around with confused ideas of strength. We don’t need to trample over others to prove how strong we are. There is certainly no need to compete with another to prove our strength.

It’s already inside us. We just need to learn to trust God and learn to walk in Love as He has called us to do.

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‬‬“and walk in love, just as Christ also loved you and gave Himself up for us, an offering and a sacrifice to God as a fragrant aroma.”
‭‭Ephesians‬ ‭5:2‬ ‭NASB

 

I’ve included this great video on Ravi Zacharias’ answer to the question “Does God favor a gender?” Enjoy!

 

Happy International Women’s Day!

 

Rest in Him friends,

With love,

Rosie and Carrie